Bill of Rights – Grieving Teens

A grieving teen has the right….

  • to know the truth about the death, the deceased, and the circumstances.

  • to have questions answered honestly.

  • to be heard with dignity and respect.

  • to be silent and not tell you her/his grief emotions and thoughts.

  • to not agree with your perceptions and conclusions.

  • to see the person who died and the place of the death.

  • to grieve any way she/he wants without hurting self or others.

  • to feel all the feelings and to think all the thoughts of his/her own unique grief.

  • to not have to follow the “Stages of Grief” as outlined in a high school health book.

  • to grieve in one’s own unique, individual way without censorship.

  • to be angry at death, at the person who died, at God, at self, and at others.

  • to have his/her own theological and philosophical beliefs about life and death.

  • to be involved in the decisions about the rituals related to the death.

  • to not be taken advantage of in this vulnerable mourning condition and circumstances.

  • to have guilt about how he/she could have intervened to stop the death.

by Teens at The Dougy Center in Portland, Oregon